You are dating a beautiful but a shy girl or one that is not a talkie. You have already talked about your hobbies, your families and your jobs and nothing else come into your mind and she is not really helping you (that’s what you believe).
One of the best ways of having a good, healthy and wholesome chat with your girlfriend is to start with small talk. The small talk will give you a general picture about her likes and dislikes, as well as what she would like to discuss and what she would rather leave alone. Once the small talk gives you a general idea, you can go ahead and discuss your common likes and dislikes.
But what is really freaking you are those moment of silence. Uhh... horrible moments. :) The key to avoid or get over these horrible moments are:
1. Compliment her
The fact is most people are shy about meeting new people. I used to be enormously shy. But when you think about it, shyness is merely a fear that others won't like you, or that you may be rejected in some way. It's natural for us to desire acceptance. So try to make her know that you like her by making a compliment. But find something that you really find attractive about her, about her lifestyle or her personality. She will become more confident and more open to share her believes and her shyness won’t be a problem
for a fluid conversation.
2. Asking open questions
How you ask questions is very important in establishing a basis for an effective communication. Effective questions open the door to knowledge and understanding. The art of
questioning lies in knowing which questions to ask when.
My favorites questions are "why" and "how" questions. You can use these frequently without
being annoying. She will feel that you are interested in what she is telling you and will develop her answers.
Therefore, you should think carefully before speaking and taking up subjects that might be repugnant to her.
3. Listen, listen, and listen.
Usually when the woman starts talking about her favorite subjects (feelings, family, relationships, friends and her work) many men lose interest or bring the conversation back to themselves. This is one of the biggest mistake men are doing all the time.
They also like to exchange jokes and anecdotes and spend a fair amount of time playing one-up and boasting. Stop doing that!!! Allow HER to have HER points of view, while you have yours. Men have felt like they have either had to abandon their own beliefs in order to try to get a woman, OR they had to fight with women about what they believe in. Both approaches lead to failure.
She is not there with you just to hear about your hero "qualities", but to have a great time!
3 Tricks When Talking on the Phone with a Woman You Have Met Online
You have met an interesting woman online. You two had a great time chatting online and she decided to give you her phone number. Now you have to make her want to see you face to face, and the phone is your only tool.
The first telephone call is the most important one. Sure you have her number, but nothing has been won yet.
1. Before you call you should have prepared a
list of several topics to talk about. Hopefully your email exchange has provided you with some information to follow up on. Study her profile to think of other topics to talk about. Prepare open ended questions. Start talking about a subject, and give her a chance to speak as well.
2. DON'T: ask her questions about other guys she's seeing, suspiciously interrogate her about how she spends her time, and angrily reprimand her for flaking on you. How she spends her time is her business.
A lot of men sabotage their chances with a woman by don't giving her enough credit and respect.You know there's trouble if you're doing all the talking and her replies are short or non-existent. If so it either means you haven't hit on the right topic to talk about, or, more likely, she simply isn't interested. Also, if she ends the conversation early or "has to go", leave it up to her to call you again, if she wants to. Usually, she won't.
So, when talking to a woman on the phone DON'T worry about impressing her. Have fun. Enjoy the conversation. Amuse yourself.
3. At first phone conversation is better to stay away of complimenting her. I think giving women compliments can be very powerful. But when you give a woman compliments within the context of trying to win her over, you become a wuss.
Usually women are curious why the men they are talking to online decided to pick them instead of other thousandths of profiles. Most of them will ask you about these "reasons" and by doing this are giving you the opportunity to make her compliments. So, wait the moment.
If the conversation flow easily, effortlessly, if you find her fairly responsive and you can keep up the conversation for at least a half hour you can ask her out. Her answer seam to be: "YES".
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